The most wonderful part of working in the field is enjoying the crazies. No, I was not referring to the clients, this is a genuine referral to the workers. During a staff meeting, upon check-in, one of my favorite staff members proudly remarked, “So I started dealing again.” The Social Workers looked amused and began making appointments available, the Mental Health Worker pulled out a referral card, and the Youth Workers double checked, “I got you on Facebook yeah?” No one does crazy like the worker. It is as if they practice while I’m not looking…
The most amusing story to date is walking in on a hostage scenario first thing in the morning and realizing, not only were you not invited to this Suarez but everyone has had breakfast long before you. This is most off putting. And who’s to blame?- the resident social worker or disgruntled kitchen staff member. Thanks a lot guys. It should be noted however somewhere in a TLC lyric, that crazy comes out when you least expect it and often from the person you never would have guessed.
These people who sport the surprise brand of crazy tend to be quick, good, friends with you and boast a magnetic type A personality. RX? No thanks, the crazy might escape. Red flags to look for include, a little too charismatic and supportive, too much empathy and support (I mean the only reasons we have friends is to bitch about shit and then boast, but this is a bit much), undermining, triangling, prying/asking personal questions, in a rush to seek information, in rush to be friends, sizing up during conversation (would you believe most people don’t know where their eyeballs are?), and other suspicious activity… Somehow I feel wearing black could be one of these…. something I learned from Dudley Do-right.
Interesting facts include how you bond and build relationships with people. Trauma, and dysfunction are the number one reasons you will bond with another person. Ever get the feeling you “recognize” someone? Examine your dysfunction and I bet you will know why. What is surprising is individuals who are experts at gauging and mimicking other people’s game playing, toxicity, and behaviour. They have a knack for identifying social games and mirroring them to fit in and achieve a goal. These individuals tend to be a little too hasty in drawing out personal information quickly- this gives them away. The issue is they are not capable with playing foreign games for a long period of time so they must extract information needed as soon as possible. People with strong pathology for example can hide their pathology for 20 hours or days at a time- but as soon a the fifth day (for example) rolls around, they must find a release. This may take the form of an affair, going to a bar, becoming what appears to be “abruptly abusive with their partner”, and so forth. Once the outlet has been established, they can continue to mask their pathology for long, extended periods of time. This is why it can take years and decades to identify pathology- even a psychopath.
So watch for the crazy and guage quick when it comes out! Ask yourself, is this crazy familiar and can I deal with it? You will discover more about yourself and who you attract by analyzing, determining, and working through your dysfunctions.